Daniel Patterson – IT Manager – age 35
* I came to see Alix because my best friend John of 20 yrs asked me to be best man at his wedding. I was really scared but did not want to let him down.
I had always been shy since my school days when I was teased at school for wearing glasses. I wouldn’t speak in a group and hated parties
Thanks for all the help that you gave to me during our consultations as it made all the difference for me in my role as Best Man at my friend’s wedding on Saturday.
I’m very pleased to tell you that it all went well, I felt comfortable during the whole day, both in meeting people for the first time & in mixing socially (to be honest, mixing socially still requires a big effort from me but I’m improving at it) & to round things off my speech, which had been my biggest fear, went down really well & a number of people congratulated me on it. Wow!!
Even before Saturday I had been making progress & now that the wedding went so well for me I’ve gained additional confidence & I intend to keep building upon that for the future.
Fear of public speaking is a common problem with many of my clients . It is usually due to a lack of confidence and self esteem. Most people rarely speak in front of a group but when a person is getting married or being the best man, being able to speak confidently to a group is essential. At work though, simply by being able to speak fluently and without nervousness in front of a group of people brings obvious advantages. And it’s surprising how many of us find it difficult to speak confidently.
Often the reason for this lack of confidence can be traced back to childhood, to being bullied or ridiculed and those feelings of shame become internalised. So when required to speak in public, very high levels of anxiety are experienced. Research has shown some people fear public speaking more than death. It really can be that difficult. Using hypnotherapy it is possible to trace back the root causes of the fear and to resolve the issues. In this case, I used creative visualisation to re-programme the mind, so old negative memories which may still have an emotional charge, are cleared. A new positive programme can then be installed into the mind with visions of confidence, self esteem, enthusiasm and success and speaking to a group feels less daunting and more of a possibility.
This kind of reprogramming is remarkably effective – it normally takes me just three sessions to find the cause and change patterns to such an extent that someone who thinks they are poor at public speaking can become confident enough in front of a group to deliver a speech.