Low self-esteem is a very common issue amongst my clients today. In a world full of glossy media images, social media and complex pressures, maintaining a healthy, positive self-image can be hard.
There are many possible causes of low self-esteem and it can manifest itself in different ways for different people. It can be a struggle to cope with the limitations of low self-esteem in everyday life, especially without seeking help. However, there are a few things that you can do to improve things for yourself.
Understand your triggers
The first step to dealing with your low self-esteem is understanding the situations that trigger these feelings. Take note of when you feel shy, awkward, insecure or uncertain. Is it in crowds or new situations? Perhaps responsibility at work or meeting strangers? Everyone is different so the first step is making sense of your own situation.
Make sure you take some time to be kind to yourself. Develop compassion for yourself as if you were a good friend. Each day write down three positive things about yourself. What are your strengths? What have you achieved? Re-reading these notes whenever you are struggling will help you develop a stronger and more positive sense of self.
Taking care of yourself is important because it reinforces the fact that you are worth caring for. Eat well, exercise, get enough sleep and manage stress levels. Take time with friends and family plus time alone to recharge. Seek out activities you enjoy with people who treat you well.
Be authentic and assertive
Practise standing up for what you believe in and defending your own opinions. Tell yourself you are worth listening to and learn to communicate assertively. You’ll find that people respond to the way you act, so if you act more confidently, even if you don’t feel it, people will come to treat you with more respect.
Find a safe place to build confidence
Find a place like a club or volunteer group where you feel safe but that still pushes you outside of your comfort zone. Here, you can start to build your self-worth and practise techniques to develop confidence.
If there are negative people in your life who tend to put your down, or groups or situations where you feel especially insecure, it might be worth distancing yourself from these for a while. Toxic or unhelpful relationships can be harmful to self-esteem. Spending too much time on social media is can also be unhelpful.
Many people with low self-esteem put off seeking professional help because they feel their problem isn’t important enough or that they won’t be taken seriously. Understand that everyone deserves to be happy and whatever is holding you back, we can work together to improve your life. I have helped many people build confidence and banish low self-esteem for good with just a few hypnotherapy or life coaching sessions.
Please do get in touch to learn more about how I can help you.