Many of us struggle with shyness and social anxiety. To some, the idea of a crowded room, speaking to strangers or even going to the shops can be a daunting prospect.
It’s important to recognise that these feelings are triggered by your own mind. Your sensitivity to certain situations means you experience a heightened fear response when there is no tangible danger. Whilst the anxiety feels very real to you, relief is possible.
If you find yourself feeling shy in social situations there are a few immediate things you can do to overcome these feelings and practise confident behaviour.
- Breathe deeply
- Relax and dress comfortably
- Maintain good posture
- Be yourself
- Repeat positive affirmations
- Focus on your good points
- Don’t compare yourself to others
- Use open body language
- Be approachable
- Focus on others
- Talk to people as often as possible
- Smile and make eye contact
- Practice speaking clearly
- Have some topics prepared
- Visualise success
- Do a little more each day
- Challenge yourself
If these tips don’t work for you or your social anxiety is still controlling your life, it may be time to seek some help.
Hypnotherapy will help you uncover the real reasons for your shyness. By dealing directly with the subconscious we remove all outside notions and distractions and focus on what’s really there.
Perhaps you have a weak self-image and would benefit from some help with confidence. You may have a negative self-voice that needs to be retrained to think more positively. Maybe you’re thinking too much about how you’re seen by others and need to relax and readdress the belief that everyone is judging you. Maybe other people have labelled you as shy and their controlling behaviour has caused you to become introverted. Whatever the cause of your shyness, hypnotherapy can help.
Reprogram Your Mind
Your shyness triggers prompt the mind to begin a fear response. We sense a situation we’re uncomfortable with and the mind responds in the way it has been programmed to react. In your case this might be feeling anxious and having negative thoughts when you’re in a crowded room. Other people with different learned responses may feel perfectly comfortable going up to a stranger and introducing themselves.
Hypnotherapy is an effective reprogramming treatment. It will help you recognise your cues and respond in more positive ways. We’ll question your behaviour and check the validity of your beliefs then introduce new healthy behaviours. It won’t be long before you feel more confident, comfortable and happy in those situations that previously made you anxious and uncomfortable.
Contact me for more information on how I can help you overcome your shyness and social anxiety.