Most of us try to avoid conflict as it makes us feel uncomfortable or anxious and it’s no different when it comes to inner conflict. We often suppress feelings of discomfort, unease or shame caused by internal struggles but this only serves to make us feel worse.
What is Internal Conflict?
Internal conflict comes about when we behave in a way that’s at odds with our internal values, ideas, image or desires. Usually we experience a vague awareness that something is making us feel uncomfortable, stressed or agitated, but we might not be sure what’s causing the feelings.
The lack of consistency and alignment between your inner values and your outer behaviour can have a huge impact on your wellbeing and peace. Being true to yourself is the best way to avoid internal conflicts but it’s not always easy as many of our desires are hidden from us by our subconscious.
Behaviours Associated with Strong Internal Conflicts
- Being easily influenced by the opinions of others
- Feeling guilt/shame about natural impulses
- Feeling no sense of stability or strong sense of self
- Constantly seeking support due to lack of conviction in self
- Experiencing sudden changes in mood and personality
- Feeling uncertain about goals, desires and plans
- Seeking distractions and entertainment
Triggers for Inner Conflict
There are many situations in our everyday lives that can trigger internal conflict.
We might feel pressure to make a politically correct, expected or safe choice rather than following our true desires – a new career path or relationship for example. Perhaps we are torn between two loyalties such as loyalty to a friend and an organisation. Or maybe we feel a duty to act one way but our heart tells us otherwise.
Difficult decisions, complex relationships, guilt and feelings of resentment are all associated with internal conflict. Any situation where our head and heart feel like they are pulling in opposite directions or we feel pressure to behave in a way that goes against our own idea of ourselves.
Overcoming Inner Conflict with Hypnotherapy
When we constantly ignore or suppress our true values we create a deep feeling of unease or dissatisfaction within ourselves. We can do ourselves a great disservice by ignoring these feelings as we separate further and further from the “real us” and it becomes more and more difficult to understand our real needs.
Becoming aware of the inner conflict is an important first step but it’s not always an easy job to resolve it. These feelings come from a subconscious place and can’t always be fixed with logic and reasoning.
A skilled hypnotherapist can guide you to identify the conflict and negotiate a resolution. By easing the conflict you’ll bring about co-operation from all parts of yourself and a feeling of ease. As you become more aware of your real needs and desires you’ll find it easier to avoid inner conflict in future. With all parts of your mind pulling in the same direction life becomes, easier, more enjoyable and more productive.
If you’d like to discuss how I can help you with your inner conflict further please do get in touch.