The messages you communicate to yourself have a strong impact on how you feel in relation to blushing. If you tell yourself that you are going to blush in certain situations, then guess what? You will. What you say to yourself becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. In order to stop blushing and become more confident, you need to recognise your internal dialogue and make a conscious decision to change it. By consciously talking to yourself in a reassuring way you can bring about positive changes at an unconscious level that will stop you from getting nervous and going red. Instead of telling yourself “I’m going to blush and stutter my words in the meeting” Tell yourself “I can cope and I’m going to focus on people in the group, not myself” Whenever you hear yourself saying negative things about yourself related to blushing, consciously say the word STOP. Remind yourself on a regular basis that you are in control. As you confront the problem of blushing head on, you will begin to feel more empowered and be able to remain cool and calm, whatever the situation. Note down positive phrases to help you overcome your fear of blushing.
Prepare yourself for difficult situations with these affirmations:
- I can stay cool and calm
- I can think rationally
- I believe in myself
Prepare yourself beforehand in case you find that you are blushing:
- I can handle this challenge
- I can hold my authority
- I don’t care what other people think Give yourself positive feedback when you manage a difficult situation. If you succeed, in spite of blushing, congratulate yourself. Positive affirmations to praise yourself
- I am getting better
- I can and I will overcome this problem
- I am proud of myself Constant practice of positive affirmations will help you overcome the problem of blushing and help build your self confidence.
Sometimes it’s difficult to break the old routine and change your internal dialogue. Often a few sessions with Alix can help get started with a new pattern and this is all it takes to stop blushing.