The pursuit of happiness is a universal struggle. We all want to be happy, but…
How to be your own best friend ? Unfortunately we’re often are own worst enemy.
The longest relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself. Being a good friend to yourself can be a huge source of comfort. Particularly at times of loneliness and instability. Moreover, developing a trusted relationship with yourself will improve confidence, staying with you long term.
Steps to becoming your own best friend.
- Getting to know yourself
Just as you would with another person, spend some time laying the ground-work for this relationship. It may sound strange, but many of us don’t really understand ourselves . Ask yourself? What are your values? Your drivers ? you? As well as your weaknesses?
Asking yourself these questions and giving yourself honest answers, leading to greater knowledge and acceptance By knowing and accept yourself, you’re becoming a better friend and advisor. If you’re finding it difficult to answer some of these questions a Life Coaching session might help.
- Enjoying your own company
Do you only ever spend time alone when you’re forced to ? Or do you actively choose your own company? Solitary hobbies such as painting, reading, yoga, meditation are all great things to do alone. Being happy in our own company is healthy . Furthermore, if we’re not happy alone it’s often because of low self-esteem. Or other issues we maybe avoiding.
- Challenging yourself
A good friend will open up new doors and opportunities to us. Perhaps suggesting a new travel location or activity for us to try. To be your own best friend you need to challenge yourself to try new things and step out of your comfort zone. In short reassuring and supporting yourself in achieving these goals.
- Being kind to yourself
A good friend accepts you for who you are and is kind and supportive. Is your internal talk negative ? Are you relying on friends for providing positive feedback? If so making a conscious effort to be aware of your own self talk. And treating yourself as kindly as you’d treat someone else. Complimenting yourself regularly, Perhaps giving yourself with a reward each day.
Sometimes friends have to be cruel to be kind. In this way telling you when you’re out of line. How to do this for yourself ? Importantly by taking a step back. In so doing cultivating good self-awareness. As well as viewing things from a neutral perspective. Plus recognising how your own judgements. Moreover, accepting your own faults and working on them. Also laughing at yourself when things get tough and being your own source of light hearted relief.
In conclusion, would you like to learn more about valuing yourself? My life coaching and hypnotherapy sessions can help you become a better friend to yourself. Please do contact me for a free consultation.