The pursuit of happiness is a universal struggle. We all want to be happy, but…
How to stop being a worrier?
Worry is a common term for mild anxiety, stress or fear, usually of a negative nature. A little worry is normal and healthy but when worry strays into obtrusive thoughts, becomes a burden or affects your everyday life to an unhealthy extent, worry has become a problem.
Some people are much more prone to worry and may need some help to change their behaviour. We can retrain the mind to have a different outlook on life and deal with anxiety and stress in a healthier way.
Pre-empt Worrying Situations
We all worry about different things. Some people find that the way they live their lives can lead to worry because of its chaotic or disorganised nature. If this sounds like you, reassessing your life and becoming more organised is a good step towards eliminating worrying situations.
You might try some of the following:
- Track expenditure, budget carefully and plan your finances
- Organise time carefully, decide on priorities and eliminate unnecessary activities
- Learn to say no to requests that you can’t really accommodate
- Ask for help or delegate some tasks
- Organise your living and work space
- Keep a schedule and prepare for activities in advance where possible
Life coaching can help you take a look at practical sources of stress or worry, rework your daily activity and gain more control.
Some people worry about things that are outside of their control. Worry can become almost addictive, making us feel better momentarily because we mistakenly believe that the effort we are expending will contribute towards a positive outcome.
The key is taking charge of your own decisions and mind. Choose where you should invest time and effort and where effort is wasted. Many people find meditation helpful as it helps them learn to focus on the present moment, calm their mind and relax. Some people find it helps to set aside a designated space and time for worry to get it out of their system, and then to consciously move on and try and keep it out of their everyday life as much as possible.
Counter worries with rational thought. Is there anything you can do about this worry? Are there practical steps you could take – more preparation or seeking help for example. Or are you worrying about things that are outside of your control?
If so, the worry is serving no real purpose and you would be better off taking a more rational approach. You can learn this skill with help from a professional. The ability to rationally address worrying situations and control your own mind is extremely valuable.
Worrying can be extremely tiring on both the mind and body. It can affect us both emotionally and physically as it puts great strain on our wellbeing, health and relationships. If you’d like to learn more about how I can help you reduce your worry using coaching or advanced hypnotherapy techniques, then please do get in touch.