Clients often come to see me because they are anxious about forming new relationships. Many suffer with social anxiety struggling with new social situations. Such individuals maybe fine with friends or colleagues but fearful of the intimacy of romantic relationships. Moreover, some are suffering with low self-esteem which prevents them from reaching out to new people. This can lead to loneliness, frustration and depression.
What causes this fear
The causes are many including experiences in early childhood .Also traumatic past events, abusive relationships or existing anxiety and confidence issues.
Modern media can portray a false version of a ‘perfect’ relationship. But the truth is no relationships are exactly the same. Everyone is different. And remember is that there’s always going to be someone out there who’s right for you.
Relationship anxiety has similar symptoms to other phobias. Our inner voice can make physical symptoms worse by creating a spiral of anticipation and worry. Most of us will experience some degree of this before a first date. But sometimes it can continue beyond. Aa a result, we may end up sabotaging the relationship because we feel unable to cope.
Do you recognise signs of relationship anxiety in yourself?
Avoidance – This involves avoiding new potential partner’s altogether. Perhaps if a friend tries to set you up or take you speed dating you always make some excuse. If someone new approaches you, do you always make an excuse to leave?
This behaviour can also extend to relationships once they are established. Does anxiety or fear lead you to ignore your partner or make excuses?
Control – Do you find yourself trying to control all situations. Your way of ensuring you aren’t made to feel uncomfortable. Or perhaps, put into a situation where you might be expected to talk to new people? Maybe, in previous relationships you’ve found yourself being overly controlling in order to reduce your own insecurities.
Clinging – Are you clinging on to established routines or safe places where you know it’s very unlikely you’ll meet new people? Maybe you sometimes have a tendency towards jealousy or clingy behaviour.
Rejection – Do you reject potential partners for insignificant reasons to protect yourself from difficult situations or having to commit?
Anger/aggression – Do you have a tendency to become aggressive when put in situations where you feel pressured or uncomfortable? Maybe you get angry at potential partners as a way to push them away.
It can be difficult overcoming established thought patterns and behaviours. Moreover, developing the confidence to be comfortable forming new relationships might seem overwhelming. However, hypnotherapy is the perfect way to deal with these issues. Because of its ability to directly address negative beliefs and fears. It can give you the freedom to finally feel confident and relaxed enough to enjoy these new experiences.
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After very few sessions you’ll find yourself confident enough to form new relationship. And ready to embrace this change. If you’d like help with any of these issues please don’t hesitate to get in touch. Learn more about the accessible, effective hypnotherapy options available to you.