If there’s one thing that my clients usually feel would make the biggest difference to their lives, it’s confidence. In most cases, this is true as confidence unlocks so much of our true selves. Our potential, goals, motivation, communication, attractiveness and success is all influenced by our own self confidence.
The first thing to understand is that confidence is not hardwired. We can develop or lose self-confidence by changing our mindset. Our early experiences or lessons have undoubtedly influenced our courage and self-worth. A few negative experiences, a childhood bully or overbearing parents can easily erode a previously self-assured child.
Confidence isn’t taught in schools or college and by the time we’re adults it’s often been replaced with the desire to please, to avoid conflict and reduce vulnerability or risk. If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. If you want to become the best version of yourself the first step is admitting your weaknesses. This makes you stronger.
So how does confidence help you become the best version of yourself?
We all have internal voices, ideas and values and we can either develop them or ignore them. When our confidence is low, so is our trust in our own self. Confident people are happy in their own company. They listen to and encourage these internal voices and self-belief. They are happy taking advice from others, but all the time there’s a strong inner presence that guides them.
As well as having a good relationship with themselves, confident people have a number of healthy relationships with friends, family and colleagues. A broad range of relationships with successful and happy people helps you bring out the best in yourself. If you have the confidence to surround yourself with people you find inspiring and aspirational, their positive influence will do wonders for your own development and self-worth.
Confidence doesn’t mean blindly wading into any situation without fear. It involves becoming aware of your fears, understanding them and being able to face them when necessary. It also means knowing yourself as you’d know a close friend. What are your strengths and weaknesses and how can you use your strengths to succeed? How can you develop your weaknesses? Confident people are happy to explore these areas and ask for help. Their innate self-belief isn’t threatened by self-improvement.
Take Calculated Risks
To become more confident we need to expose ourselves to areas outside of our existing comfort zone. As we start to handle these situations we realise that we are capable of more than we first thought. Through hypnotherapy I expose my clients to these situations gradually, using positive visualisations and affirmations to negate any negative emotions holding them back.
Our mindset is the key thing that controls our outlook and success in life. Confident people take setbacks in their stride and reframe them as learning experiences. We all fail from time to time but it’s how you deal with these setbacks that determines how quickly you recover. Confident people take criticism well and understand that not everyone will like them all of the time. However, their general positive outlook on life and towards other people tends to make them popular. Understanding how our own perspective, attitudes and beliefs shape our own world and experience is a powerful tool and is developed through confidence and self-exploration.
If you’d like to learn more about how hypnotherapy can help you develop your confidence and become the best version of yourself please do get in touch. There’s no doubt that hypnotherapy is the most effective way of unlocking this kind of potential within yourself. Why not see what it can do for you?