Identity issues and insecurity about our own sense of self are becoming more and more common. Our modern society doesn’t place the same kind of identity roles and restrictions on people that many of our older communities and societal groups did. This is good in many ways but it can leave people feeling anxious, depressed or confused with a lost sense of self or low self-esteem.
Modern social media is also unhelpful when it comes to our sense of self. How many of us feel judged by others or judge ourselves against other people’s online presence? Are a few online ‘likes’ really enough to promote a healthy sense of self that maintains our wellbeing and happiness throughout our life?
What Causes Identity Issues?
There are many causes of identity issues and insecurity. Adolescence is generally when we experiment and explore our own identity but some of us skip this stage. We may never truly feel like we found anything that fit. Other times a change in our circumstances means we feel we have lost a previously well-established identity. For example, a parent whose children have all left home, a passionate professional who has just retired or a recent divorcee.
Hypnotherapy For Self-Identity Issues
It can be difficult to fix these issues alone. Our adult mind isn’t always as equipped as it was in adolescent to perceive our identity as fluid and changeable. This is why I use hypnotherapy with my clients to address the subconscious mind which is far more effective in helping us learn what we really want from our identity and why we are feeling insecure.
Many of us feel disconnected from ourselves or our own identity because we aren’t living in line with our values. Do you know how you would describe your own values? What principles do you live by and how were these formed? Generally, when we have a solid idea of our own values, and we live by them each day, we are much happier.
We can work together to consider how you perceive yourself and how you think others perceive you. What is important to you and are you happy with your current situation? How do you think you can influence the perception of others?
What do you think of as your community or society? What groups do you feel like you associate with and how does your behaviour contribute to these? Are there any groups you wish to become more or less involved with? Why is this? Thinking about the people you choose to surround yourself with can give you huge indications about what’s important to you as you cement your own identity.
Has the way that you define yourself recently changed and how do you feel about this? Are there other aspects to your identity that you might not have considered? It’s completely normal after a loss or change in circumstances to have to revaluate your own ideas about yourself and your life. We can undergo huge change without sacrificing our identity, although we sometimes struggle to adapt.
Visualising your ideal self can help you pin down the key aspects of your desired identity. What are your hopes for the future? What do you see as the best possible version of yourself?
One effective way to develop a new identity is to focus on finding what you’re passionate about. Examine your interests and how you like to spend your time. What gets you excited and out of bed in the morning?
If you’d like help to work through any of these issues I have a lot of experience helping people with identity issues using my advanced hypnotherapy techniques. By opening yourself up to change and new ideas you can rebuild your sense of self. We usually discover that it was there all along. For more help please do get in touch.