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Mistakes that make you unpopular at work

Making mistakes that make you unpopular at work can limit your progress.  Being popular, contributes to a happier life. And as well as new friendships, there are many other benefits. In addition, popularity ,ensures you aren’t overlooked for promotions and other opportunities. If your colleagues think well of you, this tends to filter upwards to management too.

It’s a careful balancing act. Its true to say that everyone is different. But in my experience there are a few mistakes you should try and avoid.

Being too negative – A little complaining sometimes brings people together but going too far can be off-putting. Don’t complain too much about your job. Don’t forget, they work there too. If you do, you’re at risk of offending them. It’s best to keep a positive attitude when you can.

Over sharing – Sharing a little bit of personal information is helpful in establishing a strong connection. Sharing too much can make people feel uncomfortable and they may avoid you in future.

Not listening – If you’re lucky enough that your co-workers are taking the time to talk to you, make sure you listen to them. Giving them your undivided attention. As well as listening and clarifying questions and signs of agreement.

Being fake – It’s easy to think that you have to put on some kind of fake persona to be popular at work. Some individuals with low self-esteem do this.However, others respond much more positively to authenticity, so relax and be yourself.

Hiding away – Some of us are naturally shy which can sometimes be a hindrance at work. There’s no need to go over the top but projecting a little confidence can help. Learn how to speak and act confidently even if you don’t feel it. A few subtle signals will help people look up to you.

Hogging power – If you’re fortunate enough to be in position of power at work, make sure you share that power and help others out whenever appropriate.

Not admitting mistakes – It can be tempting to protect ourselves when we make mistakes by blaming others. However, people will respond more positively if you admit your mistakes and apologise. Make sure you also forgive others when they do the same.

Having no passion – People tend to respond well to those who share passion for the job they are doing. It makes other people feel more passionate about their roles and importance. This can be hard when you don’t feel that excited about what you do – perhaps it’s time for a new career? Either way, try to be as positive as possible.

Not respecting other people’s priorities – When we’re under stress or pressure to get a task done it can be easy to forget that other people may have equally important priorities or tasks. Even when under pressure, respect other people’s space and time and ask for help politely.

Being the office gossip – People who gossip are often very friendly and can seem popular on the surface. However, people are usually worried about what they’re saying about them behind their backs so it can prevent any proper relationships being formed. It can also be very unprofessional and hurtful so it’s best avoided.

These are just a few tips on how to become more popular at work but progress usually depends on the type of environment you work in and your own personality.

If you’d like to work on this, or anything else, in more depth please don’t hesitate to get in touch and we can have a more detailed discussion.

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