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Do you need relationship therapy?
Many people ask how they know they need relationship therapy? Is it the right thing for them and will it help them? Furthermore, how to know when problems can’t be dealt with alone?
All relationships have their ups and downs. Moreover, there’s no simple way of knowing when professional support might be beneficial.
However, there’s a few indicators that a relationship is reaching an impasse.
No longer talking
If neither of you is willing to talk then it’s going to be impossible to get anywhere alone. Most relationship problems, boil down to communication issues. Moreover, if these can be overcome, the relationship can often get back on track.
Lying about money
‘Financial infidelity’ is as much of a problem for some couple as sexual infidelity. Is one person controlling all the finances? Or keeping the other in the dark about spending? If so, is this causing anxiety and mistrust?
Sexual behaviour changes
A drastic decrease or increase in the amount of sex can be a cause or symptom of relationship issues. Although some people may feel uncomfortable at first, a professional can help you talk through these issues. in an open and honest way uncovering the underlying cause of these changes.
Not trusting them anymore
Whether these feelings are founded in fact or not, a relationship needs trust to be able to survive. You will benefit from talking through these issues and getting help to start overcoming trust issues.
Having the same arguments repeatedly
These could be little arguments that are ongoing. Where you’ve reached a stalemate such as finances, raising your children or sex.
You’re more like roommates than a couple
Are you living under the same roof but leading separate lives? This could indicate a need for third party involvement. A lack of communication and intimacy quickly leads to relationship breakdown.
It’s always negative
Negative communication, usually involving one person feeling shamed, judged, disregarded, insecure or hurt. Sometimes these types of interactions escalate into emotional abuse. So it’s good to address them early on.
Why choose relationship therapy?
When you’re feeling stuck, help from a skilled relationship therapist can make a big difference. As well as providing a chance to talk without arguing. And space to discuss your feelings safely. I’m here to listen and to support you towards a positive outcome.
Many people maybe nervous about relationship therapy. But conquering this fear brings rewards. Immediate relief coming from the feeling that something is finally being done. As well as the reassurance that you both care enough about the relationship to seek help.