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How To Deal With Abusive Relationships

Help with Abusive Relationships

There are many different ways to cope with or escape an abusive relationship.

If you’re looking for solutions read on.

Is your relationship making you feel trapped or unhappy? Are you feeling stuck in this destructive relationship leaving you feeling anxious, depressed and confused? As well as impacting on your self-confidence.

If so relationship therapy can be helpful

So what are the signs that your relationship is abusive?

These include:

  • Controlling and jealousy leading to isolation
  • Power struggles and insistence on ‘winning’
  • Criticisms and blame –  feeling you can’t do anything right
  • Putting people down and knocking confidence
  • Unhealthy pressure to see things one way

Other characteristics include…

  • People pleasing behaviour
  • Being isolated from friends or family
  • Feelings of anxiety, depression or low self esteem
  • Inability to relax or be yourself

 Abusive Relationships Help

What’s your own position?

Firstly, why are you staying in this relationship? Is it feelings of guilt or responsibility? Or real affection for the person? Maybe there is something you could do differently that could be helpful in improving the relationship?

Talking it through

Secondly, there are healthy ways of dealing with conflict. And this starts with talking to your partner in a non-threatening way rather than blaming. Furthermore, by becoming more assertive whilst listening to the others point of view.


Unfortunately, negativity and controlling behaviour isn’t a formula for happiness. Therefore take steps towards improving the situation by organising some positive and fun activities. What part can you play in developing a new closeness? As well as making intimacy a priority?

Relationship Therapy

Unfortunately, if sorting out the issues isn’t possible, what are the next steps? In short, if you both want the partnership to work, relationship counselling is an effective solution.

Moving on or letting go

Following on from the above, are you both able to agree to change individually?  Or perhaps work on the issues together. If not, then moving on may be the only way forward. Although this might be difficult sometimes, it’s necessary.

What Next?

In conclusion, if you’d like help with an abusive relationship, please do get in touch. I see clients alone or with partners, in-person or online. And I’m experienced in dealing with all types of relationship problems.

Further Reading on Abusive Relationships

Signs of Relationship Addiction

How to Break a Destructive Relationship

The Warning Signs of a Co-Dependent Relationship

Should I End My Relationship?

Gaslighting in Relationships: How to Spot & Stop It

My techniques guarantee that you remain in control at every session. These techniques, developed over 25 years, are so effective that many issues can be addressed in as little as three sessions and my location in the very heart of London means you can book sessions to work around work.

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