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Want To Overcome Your Trust Issues?
This is one of the biggest problems I see in relationships today. Mostly trust issues stem from our own insecurities or past experiences. When we bring unresolved issues into a relationship, we’re hindering it from the start. Our partner is always at a disadvantage because we never really give them a fair chance.
Signs of Trust Issues
Do you check your partner’s phone or diary or protect your own devices with extra strong security measures that your partner can’t access?
Does every suspicion lead to a worst case scenario? Do the smallest incidents always leave you assuming the worst?
Do you keep your partner on a very tight leash, always expecting to know who they are with and what they are doing? How tight are the boundaries you set for what you see as acceptable behaviour?
How often do you feel the need for drama or chaos in a relationship? Do you test the limits of your partner and relationship? Do you find yourself accused of sabotaging relationships that could have worked?
These are just a few signs of how someone with trust issues might behave in a relationship. If you recognise any of them you might benefit from some help with healing past issues and leaning to trust again.
Steps to Overcome Trust Issues
Consider where your trust issues come from
This can sometimes be hard to do alone but once you recognise the source of your trust issues and the feelings and thought processes generated by them, they’ll be much easier to combat. It could involve anything from negative past experiences, poor character judgement, defensive strategies or people pleasing that leads to people taking advantage of you.
Deal with past pain
Processing feelings of hurt or resentment is an important step to learning to live your life free from their burden. Letting go of hurt, processing learning and making an effort to move on will help you.
Consider your expectations of others
Are they fair? Do you expect people to be mind-readers or to give more than is reasonable? Do you expect them to tell you where they are all of the time or report in often? This type of behaviour can become smothering or controlling.
Be discerning rather than suspicious
Gut feelings and critical analysis are important to our wellbeing. The trick is learning to differentiate those from suspicions and fears that are unfounded and come more from you than another person’s behaviour.
Learn to give people their space
It can be hard to take a step back when you have trust issues but the more you do it the easier it will become. When you put too much pressure on people they tend to react negativity. More space creates more opportunities for communication, honesty and sharing.
Find constructive ways to cope
Instead of lashing out at your partner try to realise that your feelings are your problem and not caused solely by their behaviour. You can learn healthy ways to communicate with your partner and manage your own emotions.
How Can Hypnotherapy Help With Trust Issues?
I help clients deal with negative past experiences and separate the pain of
those from fears about the future. I teach them how to rebuild their trust, let go of anxiety and enjoy happier relationships.