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Too Shy to Date?

There are many reasons why people struggle with dating shyness. Maybe you experience social anxiety or low self-esteem and confidence issues which makes dating difficult. Are you just coming out of a relationship and not sure where to start? Sometimes traumatic past experiences leave you feeling helpless or unsure how to proceed. You might feel like you are too shy to date but don’t worry, help is at hand.

The issues behind shyness and dating can be varied. But the good news is they can be effectively treated with hypnotherapy.

Hypnotherapy For Dating Confidence

Hypnotherapy is an ideal treatment for dating shyness. Moreover it’s a safe, effective treatment for helping you resolve inner conflicts. As well as building confidence, treatment enables you to face your fears. In addition, helping you re-evaluate negative beliefs. Instead, replacing them with new powerful affirmations. In short, my treatments help clients feel safe and secure with the idea of dating. Furthermore, turning fears into a new sources of excitement.

Top tips for overcoming shyness and finding dating confidence

Understanding The Cause

To get you started what is at the root of your shyness? Is it low self-esteem, fear of intimacy or perhaps a past trauma? Dealing with the root cause is the best way to start to rebuilding your confidence.

Choosing Dating That’s Right For You

Do you enjoy group situations? If so, maybe speed dating is for you. Nevertheless, if you find this anxiety inducing, one to one meetings might be better. The internet is a useful tool for shy people to start dating. But beware of becoming too reliant on the anonymity it offers. The end goal is  feeling comfortable meeting in person.

Focusing On The Process, Not the Outcome

Are you putting too much pressure on yourself or the outcome of a date?  Successful daters learn to enjoy the process and have fun. Make the most of spending time with someone, even when you know it’s not going to progress further. Another way is by cultivating interest in people and their lives. Think about questions to ask and learn to listen. Offer interesting information about yourself in return. In reality there may be rejection along the way. But don’t take it personally – accept that some things just don’t work out.

Building Your Confidence

People are attracted to authentic and confident people. This doesn’t mean you have to be outgoing.  But an inner sense of self-worth will portray a quiet sureness. Doing things that are helpful in building your own happiness including attending new classes or activities. This is a great way to practise socialising in a low pressure environment. And definitely building confidence.

Don’t Overthink

Staying in the moment makes dating much more enjoyable. Getting stuck in negative thought patterns can be very damaging. Don’t second guess what other people are thinking. Instead remaining open and in the moment. Accepting that some people play games or treat you badly. Just move on quickly from these situations. Instead spend time with friends and family that you trust. Remember, the majority of people are good and trustworthy. They probably suffer from the same hopes and fears as you.

Further Help if you Feel Too Shy to Date

If you’d like help with shyness or dating please do get in touch to learn more.

Further Reading

5 Effective Ways for Dealing With Shyness

Social Anxiety Disorder & What It Is & How To Treat It

Anxious About Forming New Relationships

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My techniques guarantee that you remain in control at every session. These techniques, developed over 25 years, are so effective that many issues can be addressed in as little as three sessions and my location in the very heart of London means you can book sessions to work around work.

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