“I had always been shy, especially in my teenage years, but I didn’t expect to…
Whilst many people are out having fun and celebrating, the festive party season can be some people’s idea of hell. Standing awkwardly in the corner, not knowing how to behave or who to talk to, as you pray for the whole thing to end. If this sounds familiar try these top tips to go from self-conscious to self-confident at your next party or event.
- Get there early
If you feel uneasy walking into a busy room get there early to warm up and gradually let the room fill around you. Ease yourself in by talking to the other early arrivals and you’ll soon start to feel more settled.
When we get anxious or nervous we tend to take short, shallow breathes which only makes things worse. Focus on taking deep breathes which will have a calming effect. Take a few before you walk into the room.
- Dress to Impress
Wear something you feel good in. Something that might start a few conversations but that you’re comfortable in and that fits well.
- Educate yourself
Find out who’s going to be there and what they do. Read up on a few interesting stories or news events so you have something to talk about.
- Own it
Imagine that you’re hosting the event. This instantly makes you feel more at home and at ease. Even better, see if you can help organise the event or get friendly with the person who is.
- Introduce yourself
Approach people and introduce yourself. Smile, be open and friendly. Try complimenting them and asking open ended questions to break the ice. Then listen carefully to what they say. Talk to as many people as possible. You’ll probably find that most people will be happy to talk once you make the leap.
- Mind your body language
Maintain eye contact, smile, use open body language and don’t stare at the floor or fold your arms too much. Try not to fidget, stand tall and don’t talk too fast.
- Don’t drink too much
Although one or two drinks may give your confidence a little boost, too much could end in disaster. Pace yourself and mix in a few soft drinks.
- Be kind
Sometimes when we’re nervous or reaching for something to say we turn to gossip or nastiness. Avoid this at all costs. Confident people don’t need this. Try laughing at yourself instead.
- Seek help
If you need more help, talk to a professional for some powerful and effective techniques. I would be happy to work with you to improve your confidence in social situations.
Further Help for Party Confidence
If you’re able, just relax, be happy and enjoy yourself. People react well to a smile and happy glow. I hope you all have a fun and happy festive period. If you would like help with any of the issues here please don’t hesitate to contact me.