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People Pleaser Personality Traits

What are people pleaser personality traits?

They’re qualities in someone who wants everyone around them to be happy.

Is this you? If so, are you putting other people’s happiness before your own? Perhaps pleasing has become an addiction for boosting your own self-worth. In so doing becoming a problem for you.

Do you always want to please people?

Firstly ask yourself, is your security based on validation from others? Moreover, are you spending time with people needing a lot of help? Or who are overly controlling. In some cases are you feeling trapped in destructive or co-dependant relationships?  In short, are you losing control over your own wellbeing? As well as experiencing stress, low self-esteem and anxiety.

People Pleaser Traits

Do you recognise any of the following behaviours?

  • Are you finding it difficult to say no?
  • Do you hate the idea of anyone not liking you?
  • It’s hard for you to speak your mind
  • Preferring to go along with other people
  • Avoiding all types of conflict
  • Encouraging everyone to get along
  • Displaying signs of passive aggression

Why am I a People Pleaser?

This is sometimes originating from a fear of rejection from early childhood relationships. As well as due to a fear of conflict or social anxiety.

How to Stop People Pleasing

Often it’s healthy to put yourself first. Here are some ways of changing the people pleasing behaviour patterns.

  • Asking for what you want – Speak up! Voicing your opinions so as to get what you want sometimes. Your opinion matters.
  • Doing things for yourself – Do something you want to do without worrying what others think. New clothes, new hair, new hobby – whatever makes you happy.

However, if you’re finding these tips difficult you might benefit from exploring the following:

Examining your fears – Why are you frightened of rejection, failure or conflict? Because this needs to be addressed so you can move on.

Testing your boundaries – What would you expect other people to tolerate? Why do you expect yourself to tolerate more? Why is that?  Identifying unacceptable treatment and dealing with it in a healthy way.

Uncovering the source – In short where is your people pleasing behaviour coming from? This is key to initiating change.

Therapy for People Pleasing

In conclusion, stopping people pleasing behaviour will help you feel more relaxed. Furthermore, feeling more respected as well as building healthier relationships.

Hypnotherapy is the ideal way to achieve this. Because it addresses the causes of behaviours rather than just the symptoms. It is a quick, safe and effective way to develop new behaviours.

For more information on hypnotherapy please do get in touch. I’ll be happy to help.

Further Reading

How to handle criticism

Improve communication skills using hypnotherapy

Is approval seeking behaviour holding You back ?

How to be more self-reliant

Do you worry too much what other people think?

Alix Needham

Alix Needham

My techniques guarantee that you remain in control at every session. These techniques, developed over 25 years, are so effective that many issues can be addressed in as little as three sessions and my location in the very heart of London means you can book sessions to work around work.

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