Procrastination No More: A Hypnotherapist’s Guide to Boosting Productivity

Procrastination, the silent thief of time, has a way of creeping into our lives and sabotaging our best intentions. But fret not, for within the realm of hypnotherapy lies the key to unlocking a path to productivity and success. Join me as we explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy techniques in banishing procrastination and reclaiming control over our lives.

Understanding Procrastination
Procrastination is a common phenomenon that affects people from all walks of life. It’s the act of delaying or avoiding tasks, often due to feelings of overwhelm, fear of failure, or lack of motivation. While procrastination may provide temporary relief, it ultimately leads to increased stress, decreased productivity, and missed opportunities. Understanding the root causes of procrastination is the first step toward overcoming this persistent obstacle.

Hypnotherapy’s Approach to Procrastination
Hypnotherapy offers a unique approach to addressing procrastination, focusing on rewiring the subconscious mind to overcome self-limiting beliefs and behaviours. Through relaxation techniques, positive suggestion, and visualization exercises, hypnotherapy helps individuals break free from the cycle of procrastination and cultivate a mindset of productivity and achievement.

Banishing Procrastination: The Hypnotherapy Experience
Imagine stepping into a realm of boundless possibility, where your goals and aspirations come into sharp focus, and procrastination fades into the background. This is the essence of the hypnotherapy experience – a journey into the depths of your subconscious mind where limiting beliefs and barriers to productivity are dissolved, paving the way for focused action and meaningful progress.

During hypnotherapy sessions, individuals are guided into a hypnotic state where the subconscious mind becomes more receptive to positive suggestions. Here, deep-seated patterns related to procrastination are gently addressed and reframed, allowing individuals to tap into their inner resources and overcome obstacles with ease.

Transformative Outcomes: Boosting Productivity

As individuals progress through their hypnotherapy journey, they often experience profound transformations:

Increased Focus and Concentration:
Hypnotherapy helps individuals sharpen their focus and concentration, enabling them to tackle tasks with clarity and efficiency.

Enhanced Motivation and Drive:
By addressing underlying issues such as fear of failure or lack of motivation, hypnotherapy ignites a sense of purpose and determination, fuelling individuals to take action and pursue their goals with vigour.

Improved Time Management:
Through relaxation techniques and visualization exercises, hypnotherapy enhances individuals’ ability to manage their time effectively, allowing them to prioritize tasks and make meaningful progress toward their objectives.

Reduced Stress and Anxiety:
As procrastination diminishes and productivity soars, individuals experience a corresponding decrease in stress and anxiety, leading to a greater sense of well-being and fulfilment.

Guiding You Toward Productivity
If you’re ready to bid farewell to procrastination and unlock your full potential, know that the path to productivity is within reach. Contact me, Alix Needham, today to schedule your personalized hypnotherapy session and embark on a journey toward banishing procrastination once and for all. Together, let’s harness the transformative power of hypnotherapy and unlock a future filled with productivity, achievement, and success.

Alix Needham

My techniques guarantee that you remain in control at every session. These techniques, developed over 25 years, are so effective that many issues can be addressed in as little as three sessions and my location in the very heart of London means you can book sessions to work around work.

Assertiveness at Work and in Life: Hypnotherapy for Clear Communication
Assertiveness is the quiet strength behind clear, confident communication. It empowers you to express your needs, stand up for yourself, and handle conflict with composure—all without aggression or apology. Yet for many, being assertive feels uncomfortable or even impossible. Fear of rejection, a desire to please others, or past conditioning can cause us to shrink back, avoid confrontation, or suppress our true thoughts and feelings. Hypnotherapy offers a gentle yet powerful way to develop assertiveness—by working at the subconscious level to build confidence, dissolve fear, and rewire unhelpful patterns that block clear self-expression. Whether it’s speaking up at work, setting boundaries in relationships, or saying “no” without guilt, hypnotherapy can help you find your voice and use it with calm authority. What Is Assertiveness—and Why Do We Struggle With It? Assertiveness is the ability to communicate your thoughts, feelings, and needs directly and respectfully. It’s not about being forceful or dominating—it’s about being honest and self-assured while also considering others. Yet many people confuse assertiveness with rudeness or selfishness, especially if they’ve been raised to “keep the peace” or avoid conflict. Common signs of difficulty with assertiveness include: Saying “yes” when you want to say “no” Apologising for things that aren’t your fault Avoiding difficult conversations Feeling resentful after interactions Struggling to maintain personal boundaries These behaviours are often rooted in deeply held subconscious beliefs—like “I must be liked,” “My needs don’t matter,” or “It’s safer to stay quiet.” Hypnotherapy helps challenge and change these beliefs, giving you the tools to communicate clearly and confidently. How Hypnotherapy Builds Assertiveness Hypnotherapy works by accessing the subconscious mind, where long-standing fears, patterns, and beliefs reside. In a deeply relaxed state, the subconscious becomes open to suggestion, allowing us to introduce new, empowering ways of thinking and behaving. Here’s how hypnotherapy supports assertiveness in both work and personal life: 1. Rewiring Limiting Beliefs Many people hold subconscious scripts such as: “I’m not allowed to say no.” “Conflict is dangerous.” “People won’t like me if I speak my mind.” Through hypnosis, we identify and gently replace these beliefs with healthier ones like: “It’s safe to express my needs.” “I can be kind and assertive.” “My voice matters.” 2. Reducing Fear of Judgment or Rejection Fear of how others will react often holds us back from assertive communication. Hypnotherapy helps reduce this fear by building emotional resilience. When you feel grounded in your self-worth, you no longer base your words or actions on pleasing others—you speak from clarity and self-respect. 3. Rehearsing Assertive Scenarios Using visualisation techniques, hypnotherapy guides you through situations where you want to be more assertive. Whether it’s asking for a raise, handling a difficult colleague, or saying no to a family member, mental rehearsal helps you practise new responses in a safe, supportive environment. The brain treats these rehearsals as real, making it easier to act confidently in the moment. 4. Managing Emotional Triggers If you’ve been a people-pleaser for years, speaking up may trigger anxiety, guilt, or shame. Hypnotherapy helps desensitise these emotional triggers by teaching your mind and body to stay calm. You learn to hold firm boundaries without feeling overwhelmed by emotion or fear. 5. Strengthening Your Inner Voice At the heart of assertiveness is self-belief. Through guided hypnotherapy, we nurture your inner voice—the one that knows your worth, trusts your instincts, and allows you to speak your truth with clarity and care. This voice becomes a steady presence in your daily interactions. Case Study: Lisa’s Assertive Awakening Lisa, a kind and capable manager, came to me feeling invisible in meetings and overburdened in her personal life. She rarely said no and constantly apologised, even when she wasn’t at fault. Through hypnotherapy, we uncovered an early belief that it was her job to “keep everyone happy.” We worked to replace this with a more balanced belief: “I can be kind without overextending myself.” Using visualisation, we practised assertive conversations and created a calming mental anchor she could use before speaking up. Within a few weeks, Lisa began setting clearer boundaries at work and saying no without guilt. She reported feeling more respected—and more at peace. Practical Tips to Strengthen Assertiveness To complement hypnotherapy, here are some daily strategies you can apply: Use “I” Statements: Instead of blaming or avoiding, say “I feel…” or “I need…” to express yourself clearly and respectfully. Pause Before Responding: Give yourself a moment to think before answering a request. A simple “Let me get back to you” buys time and reduces knee-jerk people-pleasing. Practise Saying No: Start small. Saying no to minor requests builds your confidence for bigger ones. Embrace Silence: You don’t have to fill every pause. Speaking less can often convey more authority. Celebrate Your Wins: Acknowledge each assertive step you take, however small. Progress builds confidence. Finding Your Voice—and Using It with Confidence Assertiveness is a life skill that improves relationships, reduces stress, and enhances your sense of self. It allows you to live and work in alignment with your values, free from guilt or fear. Hypnotherapy offers a gentle, effective way to develop this skill—by healing the root causes of self-silencing and strengthening your ability to speak clearly, calmly, and confidently. If you’re ready to express yourself without fear, set boundaries without guilt, and communicate with clarity in every area of your life, hypnotherapy can help. Let’s work together to unlock the power of your voice. Warmly, Alix Needham Alix Needham – London Hypnotherapy, Relationship Coaching and life coaching Alix Needham has years of experience helping people with these issues. Her therapy clinic is located right in the centre of London or she can provide online sessions at your convenience. Alix is well-known in the industry for her experience, friendliness and effectiveness. Please do get in touch to learn more about how she could help you. Book Now
Breaking Free from Imposter Syndrome: How Hypnotherapy Rebuilds Self-Worth
Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling that you’re not as competent or successful as others perceive you to be. Despite external accomplishments, those who struggle with imposter syndrome often attribute their achievements to luck or timing, constantly fearing they’ll be “found out” as a fraud. This mindset can erode confidence, stifle growth, and lead to chronic self-doubt. Fortunately, hypnotherapy offers an effective way to break free from imposter syndrome by rewiring these limiting beliefs at a deep, subconscious level. What is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome manifests as a pattern of self-doubt, often seen in high-achieving individuals. It presents in various ways, such as dismissing praise, attributing success to external factors, or feeling undeserving of your accomplishments. The emotional toll of imposter syndrome can be immense, creating anxiety, stress, and even burnout. The root of these feelings often lies in unaddressed beliefs about self-worth, which hypnotherapy can help uncover and transform. How Hypnotherapy Works to Rebuild Self-Worth Hypnotherapy addresses imposter syndrome by accessing the subconscious mind, where deep-seated beliefs about oneself are stored. These beliefs, often formed in childhood or shaped by negative experiences, can limit your ability to feel deserving of success. Through hypnotherapy, we can identify these blocks and reprogram the mind with healthier, more empowering perspectives. Here’s how: Uncovering the Origins of Self-Doubt Imposter syndrome doesn’t appear overnight. It usually develops over time, often stemming from early experiences where you felt inadequate or unworthy. During hypnotherapy, I guide clients into a deeply relaxed state, where they can explore the origins of these beliefs. Sometimes, it might be a critical parent, a perfectionist mindset, or comparing oneself unfavorably to others. Understanding these roots is the first step in healing. Rewriting the Internal Script Once the cause of imposter syndrome is uncovered, hypnotherapy focuses on rewriting the internal narrative. Instead of believing “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve this success,” we replace these limiting beliefs with affirmations like “I am capable,” “I deserve my achievements,” and “I am enough.” These new beliefs, rooted in your subconscious, become the foundation for genuine self-worth. Reinforcing Success with Visualization Hypnotherapy also uses the power of visualization to reinforce success. By guiding clients through mental imagery of successful scenarios—whether it’s excelling in a presentation, receiving praise gracefully, or confidently tackling challenges—I help the mind normalize these experiences. This mental rehearsal strengthens the belief that success is deserved and achievable. Reducing the Fear of Failure A hallmark of imposter syndrome is the fear that any mistake will expose you as a fraud. Hypnotherapy works to reduce this fear by shifting your perspective on failure. Rather than viewing setbacks as evidence of inadequacy, we work to reframe them as opportunities for growth. By changing how you react to mistakes, we dissolve the intense pressure to be perfect. Case Study: Mark’s Breakthrough Mark was a successful entrepreneur who constantly battled imposter syndrome. Despite building a thriving business, he felt like a fraud, believing his success was due to luck rather than skill. In our sessions, we discovered that Mark’s perfectionism and fear of failure stemmed from his upbringing, where he was often compared to others and pressured to succeed. Through hypnotherapy, Mark was able to rewrite these old narratives, replacing them with beliefs rooted in his genuine worth and abilities. Over time, he reported feeling more confident in his decisions, taking pride in his success, and no longer attributing his achievements to external factors. Practical Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome While hypnotherapy is highly effective, there are also practical steps you can implement alongside our sessions to manage imposter syndrome: Keep a Success Journal: Record your accomplishments, no matter how small. Reflecting on these can help shift your perspective from doubt to recognition of your abilities. Accept Compliments: Instead of deflecting praise, practice saying “thank you.” This simple act reinforces that you are deserving of positive feedback. Avoid Comparisons: Comparing yourself to others can fuel feelings of inadequacy. Focus on your journey and what makes you uniquely capable. Challenge Negative Thoughts: When self-doubt creeps in, ask yourself, “What evidence do I have that this is true?” Often, your fears are based on feelings rather than facts. The Path to True Self-Worth Overcoming imposter syndrome is not about achieving more or proving yourself to others. It’s about recognizing the value you already possess. Hypnotherapy allows you to break free from the internal barriers holding you back, empowering you to embrace your success with confidence and authenticity. If imposter syndrome is preventing you from fully enjoying your accomplishments, hypnotherapy can help you reconnect with your inner worth. Reach out today, and together we can begin the journey to a more confident, empowered you
From Pleaser to Empowered: Breaking Free with Hypnotherapy
Are you tired of putting others’ needs before your own, constantly seeking validation and approval? If so, you may be caught in the trap of people-pleasing – a pattern that can leave you feeling depleted, unfulfilled, and disconnected from your true self. But fret not, for within the realm of hypnotherapy lies the key to breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing and reclaiming your power. Join me as we explore the transformative power of hypnotherapy techniques in transforming from a pleaser to an empowered individual. Understanding People-Pleasing People-pleasing is a common behaviour characterized by an excessive desire to gain approval and avoid conflict. While it may seem harmless on the surface, people-pleasing can have profound effects on our mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. Constantly putting others’ needs before our own can lead to feelings of resentment, exhaustion, and a loss of self-identity. Understanding the root causes of people-pleasing is the first step toward breaking free from its grip. Hypnotherapy’s Approach to Empowerment Hypnotherapy offers a holistic approach to addressing people-pleasing behavior, focusing on empowering individuals to set boundaries, prioritize self-care, and cultivate a strong sense of self-worth. Through relaxation techniques, positive suggestions, and visualization exercises, hypnotherapy helps individuals break free from the cycle of people-pleasing and embrace a life of authenticity and empowerment. Breaking Free: The Hypnotherapy Experience Imagine stepping into a realm of boundless possibility, where the weight of others’ expectations lifts from your shoulders, and you’re free to express your true self without fear or hesitation. This is the essence of the hypnotherapy experience – a journey into the depths of your subconscious mind where limiting beliefs and patterns are dissolved, paving the way for self-discovery and transformation. During hypnotherapy sessions, individuals are guided into a hypnotic state where the subconscious mind becomes more receptive to positive suggestion. Here, deep-seated beliefs related to people-pleasing are gently addressed and reframed, allowing individuals to reclaim their power and embrace their authentic selves. Transformative Outcomes: Empowerment and Authenticity As individuals progress through their hypnotherapy journey, they often experience profound transformations: Setting Boundaries: Hypnotherapy helps individuals establish healthy boundaries, enabling them to protect their time, energy, and emotional well-being. Prioritizing Self-Care: By prioritizing self-care and self-love, hypnotherapy fosters a sense of inner worth and fulfillment, reducing the need for external validation. Embracing Authenticity: Through relaxation techniques and positive suggestion, hypnotherapy encourages individuals to embrace their authentic selves, allowing them to live with integrity and purpose. Cultivating Confidence: As individuals break free from the cycle of people-pleasing, they experience a newfound sense of confidence and self-assurance, enabling them to navigate life’s challenges with grace and resilience. Guiding You Toward Empowerment If you’re ready to break free from the shackles of people-pleasing and embrace a life of authenticity and empowerment, know that the path is within reach. Contact me, Alix Needham, today to schedule your personalized hypnotherapy session and embark on a journey toward self-discovery and transformation. Together, let’s harness the transformative power of hypnotherapy and unlock your true potential.
Embracing Positive Habits: Hypnotherapy Toolbox for Londoners
In the heartbeat of London’s vibrant lifestyle, finding balance and cultivating positive habits can be a challenge amidst the hustle and bustle of city living. As a seasoned hypnotherapist dedicated to the well-being of Londoners, I’m thrilled to share insights into how hypnotherapy serves as a powerful toolbox for embracing positive habits. Join me on this transformative journey as we explore the synergy between hypnotherapy and the pursuit of a more balanced, fulfilling life. Understanding the Urban Struggle London, with its dynamic energy and endless opportunities, can simultaneously be a source of inspiration and stress. The demands of a fast-paced career, navigating bustling streets, and the constant stimuli from city life can create an environment where cultivating positive habits takes intention and strategy. From managing stress to fostering healthy relationships, the urban struggle is real. The Science of Positive Habit Formation Positive habits are the building blocks of a fulfilling life. However, breaking old patterns and establishing new, constructive habits can be a formidable task. This is where hypnotherapy, a science-backed therapeutic technique, becomes a valuable tool. Through the power of suggestion and reprogramming the subconscious mind, hypnotherapy lays the foundation for positive habit formation. Building Resilience with Stress Management Hypnotherapy Stress is an inevitable part of urban life, but it doesn’t have to dictate our well-being. Stress management hypnotherapy is a cornerstone of the hypnotherapy toolbox, equipping Londoners with the skills to navigate stressors effectively. By addressing the root causes of stress on a subconscious level, individuals can build resilience and approach challenges with a calm and centered mindset. Unlocking Confidence and Self-Esteem In the diverse tapestry of London, confidence and self-esteem play pivotal roles in personal and professional success. The hypnotherapy toolbox includes targeted sessions to unlock inner confidence and foster a positive self-image. By rewiring limiting beliefs and instilling empowering suggestions, individuals can embrace positive habits that elevate their confidence in various aspects of life. Breaking Free from Negative Thought Patterns Negative thought patterns can hinder personal growth and hinder the development of positive habits. Hypnotherapy offers a unique approach to breaking free from these patterns by accessing the subconscious mind. Through guided sessions, individuals can replace self-limiting thoughts with positive affirmations, paving the way for a mindset that fosters positive habits naturally. Cultivating Mindfulness in the City Mindfulness is a cornerstone of well-being, and in the whirlwind of London’s energy, it becomes even more crucial. The hypnotherapy toolbox includes mindfulness techniques that guide individuals to cultivate presence and awareness. From mindful breathing to visualization, these practices empower Londoners to navigate the city with a grounded and centered demeanor. Hypnotherapy is an extremely effective way to instil positive habits and set you up for success. If you’d like to live a more positive and healthy life, or explore any of the issues mentioned in this article, please do get in touch. I offer face to face sessions in my London clinic, or online hypnotherapy appointments. Everything is completely tailored to you and results are usually achieved in as few as three sessions.
How to Overcome Perfectionism
What’s Your Biggest Weakness? It’s the classic answer to that difficult interview question…’what’s your biggest weakness?’. Many people answer this way because they secretly see perfectionism as a strength, or at least as a less severe weakness. However, the truth is that a real obsession with perfectionism can be crippling. It makes us feel like failures, sucks the joy from our lives and accomplishments and causes us to undermine our own potential. What is Perfectionism? Perfectionism is the need to ensure that in almost every facet of a person’s life, everything is perfect. Perfectionists strive to always get things right, however, as is well documented, this can have a detrimental affect on a person, and can stop them from getting started on new things, if they feel they are not up to the task. What’s the Problem with Perfectionism? When perfectionists make what they see as mistakes, this can lead to frustration, shame, guilt and procrastination. Research shows that perfectionistic tendencies have been linked to a huge list of clinical issues: depression, anxiety, social anxiety disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, eating disorders, post-traumatic stress disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, insomnia, hoarding and even early mortality and suicide. A perfectionist tends to wholly focus on the negatives, be overly self critical, potentially risk adverse and unable to forgive themselves for ‘failure’. Even when the task was near-impossible in the first place. The feeling of never quite having completed a task to their satisfaction can leave a person with an overwhelming sense of disappointment as well as other negative emotions. Media and the Desire to be Perfect Perfectionism is on the rise. These tendencies are spotted in people of all ages – children, adolescents and adults. Modern media, beauty standards and ‘Instagram’ culture can fuel this drive in people. It’s so easy to take the perfection we see in the media as a standard for ourselves but these snapshots are not real and are unachievable. Why Mistakes are Important Mistakes are how we learn and grow. The most successful people are not those who don’t make any mistakes. In fact, successful people don’t tend to be risk adverse. They take risks and if things don’t work out exactly as planned, they learn from this experience. These life experiences are key to growth. What Causes Perfectionism? The question is why does an individual feel the need to ensure that the task that they are undertaking is done perfectly? For many people simply achieving the task itself is enough, however, for those who have an issue with perfectionism, that is simply not enough. There are normally underlying reasons in the psyche of the individual that fuels the desire for the perfect outcome. These can be related to deep-rooted issues from childhood or painful criticism that may have occurred in the past. Whatever the reason, the fact remains that perfectionism is an unhealthy frame of mind, and in reality needs to be addressed, otherwise the person will live a life of almost perpetual unhappiness as they struggle to constantly achieve perfection Hypnotherapy for Perfectionism Hypnotherapy is often used successfully for this kind of problem. The reason it works so well is that it enables a trained therapist to delve into the psychological make up of the person to find the root cause. Once this is determined, then a suitable course of action to remedy the issue can then be arranged. Determining the cause requires skilled questioning and reviews of answers to ascertain the problem, and is best carried out by an advanced hypnotherapist. Positive Perfectionism Can perfectionism ever be a good thing? Of course it can! When perfectionism is ‘healthy’ it isn’t the overriding driver. People with a healthy dose of perfectionism tend to have high standards, discipline and good motivation. However, they can also be positive, take risks and view the world with a balanced eye. Hypnotherapy can help you turn your problem perfectionism into a more beneficial attribute. Your Next Steps If you feel like you have an unhealthy perfectionist drive then please do get in touch. I can help you find a new outlook and feel free of these controlling and negative feelings. Why not get in touch for a free, no-obligation consultation to discuss your situation? I can offer sessions in my London hypnotherapy clinic or via online hypnotherapy – the choice is yours. BOOK NOW Further Reading Self Sabotage : Why We Do It & How To Stop Why do I Keep Making The Same Mistakes? Is Approval Seeking Behaviour Holding You Back? How to stop negative self talk Working From Home: Knowing When to Stop Are you a workaholic or do you just work hard? .
Improving Your Relationship With Money
Are there ways of improving your relationship with money? The answer is definitely YES. Although it seems natural to acquire money, most people believe that this can buy security, power, love and freedom. However, the fact is that everyone has a different relationship with money. And this is predominantly based on their specific background and experiences. Limiting Beliefs Around Money Many of our subconscious beliefs around money were shaped in our childhood. Try and think back. What was the attitude towards money of your parents? Were you told it was very scarce? That you had to watch every penny? Or perhaps that people with lots of money were somehow immoral or selfish? I work with my clients to uncover their subconscious, and often limiting, beliefs about money. What do they think they would have do sacrifice in order to get more money? Would money change them? What is their biggest fear around money? Negative Behaviours Around Money Some people are stuck in a pattern of behaviour where their beliefs around money makes them feel depressed, unhappy and a failure. Whilst others become so consumed with making money, they can literally lose everything trying to reach this misguided goal in life where nothing else really matters. The fact is that many people often deny they have a problem and instead point the finger at others, accusing them of being mean or money mad rather than recognising any neurotic behaviour in themselves. Ask yourself, do any of the following apply to you…? You buy things that you don’t need to impress others You spend money on others but not on your self You put money ahead of everything in your life You have difficulty making decisions about spending money. You feel inferior to people who have more money than you The amount you have saved is never enough You firmly believe that money will solve all of your problems You never seem to have money but get by on charm and fresh air You complain about the cost of every thing you buy You automatically say I cant afford it whether you can or not A negative attitude towards money can spoil friendships and relationships. It can make you constantly feel unhappy with your life, however much or little money you have. Hypnotherapy for Money & Wealth As an advanced hypnotherapist with more than 25 years of helping people with this problem, I can help you gain a more positive relationship with money. Using tried and tested techniques I will help you identify the causes of your problems, which, in turn, will help you to change your old limiting beliefs and behaviour and develop a healthier relationship with money and with yourself. If you’d like to learn more about how hypnotherapy can change your relationship with money please do get in touch. I can offer a free, no-obligation consultation to discuss your goals. Sessions are completely tailored to you and can be offered in my London hypnotherapy clinic or online. Book Now Further Reading 6 Reasons To See A Success Coach Unblocking Your Wealth Potential Do You Have A Work Obsession? How to Achieve Happiness with Hypnotherapy? Release Your Brakes and Speed to Success
Self Sabotage : Why We Do It & How To Stop
Are you your own worst enemy? Do you repeat the same patterns of behaviour over and over again which prevent you from achieving your goals? Do you set off well but let fear and doubt creep in to derail your progress? These self-sabotage cycles are common in many of us and prevent us from reaching our true potential. What is Self-Sabotage? Self-sabotage is any behaviour, thought or emotion that prevents you achieving your goals. It manifests itself in conflict between our conscious desires and our unconscious fears or beliefs. It is our mind’s way of protecting us against disappointment by not letting us stray from our comfort zone. Sometimes self-sabotaging behaviour is obvious but hard for us to stop without help – think about comfort eating, self-harm and addiction. Other times it’s more subtle and may take the form of procrastination, limiting beliefs or risk aversion. Why We Do It As well as being a coping strategy, self-sabotage is also linked to low self-worth, esteem or confidence. It can also be caused by an inability to manage our emotions and fears. Self Sabotage in Relationships Self sabotage in relationships is quite a common behaviour pattern. It can take many forms. Generally, a previously happy relationship takes a sudden turn due to one person’s change in behaviour. When met with a situation which makes them feel vulnerable, panicky or threatened, they start to pull away or act out. This could be jealousy from a previous betrayal, or perhaps things start to become more serious and a person’s insecurities kick in. Self sabotage in these cases can take the form of cheating, lying and recklessness or something more subtle such as just becoming distant or reducing communication (behaviours often seen in emotionally unavailable people). Often, self sabotaging behaviour in relationships stems from a history or unsecure attachments or an unconscious fear of rejection or vulnerability. By releasing these blocks you can stop this behaviour and enjoy successful relationships again. Self Sabotage at Work Have you ever been on the cusp of something big at work? Perhaps a new role, a challenging new client or a big deal. But then, you suddenly miss deadlines, falter with indecision or fail to call people back? You might tell yourself it just wasn’t meant to be, but could it have been self sabotage? Many of us struggle to deal with success. We aren’t sure how to relate to our new role or we subconsciously have a fear of failure or experience imposter syndrome. Overcome Self-Sabotage There are a few things you can do to overcome self-sabotage: Figure out what you really want and whether it’s attainable – are you thinking too big or too small? Set realistic but ambitious goals. Ask what’s driving the behaviour. Look at the evidence and try and discover what triggers your voice of doubt. Don’t measure your success by other people. Accept that life doesn’t always go smoothly but that each person’s approach is valid. Realise that perfection doesn’t exist. Deal with setbacks calmly and logically and learn from your mistakes. Ask more useful questions of yourself. Treat change and failure as an experiment and learning experience. Get support from others and look at yourself through their eyes. Replace negative behaviour with positive. Practice positive thoughts. Coaching and Hypnotherapy Treatment Although the above tips are useful it’s likely that to fully eliminate self-sabotage you will need some help. A life coaching relationship gives you a structured way to plan, take action and achieve your goals. Another person’s rational perspective protects you from being overly influenced by limiting beliefs, helps you learn from your mistakes and provides a rational outlook on your situation. If your self-sabotage takes the form of destructive physical behaviour or stems from low self-esteem, anxiety or confidence my advanced hypnotherapy treatments can address these issues and provide freedom from these behaviours. For more information on how I can help you with self-sabotage please get in touch. I can offer face to face sessions from my London hypnotherapy clinic, or online hypnotherapy sessions. Further Reading Generalised Anxiety Disorder Treatment How to Build Self Confidence FAQ – Your Hypnotherapy Session Mistakes that make you unpopular at work What Helps with Identity Insecurity
Online Life Coaching
Try an Online Life Coach What better way to spend this time than getting your life organised and working on yourself? Online life coaching is an effective, simple way to make real changes to your life. Life Coaching is an often misunderstood therapy. A life coaching partnership with an experienced therapist is one of the most powerful things you could ever do for yourself. Just a few sessions can start to unlock your potential and help you achieve more. Motivation & purpose If you’re struggling to find meaning in your daily life or feel unmotivated to complete tasks or start a new project, life coaching can help you discover why. Many of us are unsure what really drives us and feel disconnected from our jobs or pastimes. Take this opportunity to reassess how you spend your time and find the things that really inspire you. Organisation and time management Do you feel like you’re struggling to manage your priorities or time? Maybe your circumstances have changed and you’re not sure how you will cope, or things are starting to feel a little out of control. Whatever your situation, life coaching can give you new ideas, tips and tools. Problem solving Do you have a problem you need help with? Sometimes we are too close to our problems to see an effective solution. Why not get some new input to help you discover some creative solutions? Forging a path Are you taking on a new challenge or wondering what the best way forward is? An experienced life coach can help you plan your next steps. Online life coaching can be fitted into even the busiest schedule. With no travel or additional stress getting to the therapist’s office, you can spend 100% of the time focusing on results. If you’d like to learn more contact Alix Needham today. Further Reading on Life Coaching Life Coach London Achieve Success With Life Coaching Find The Best Life Coach For You 8 Reasons You Need a Life Coach Life Coaching Information Online Hypnotherapy & Coaching

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