There were many changes during the Covid lockdown that put a strain on our relationships.…
The Reason for Affairs
“Jenny was 32 and single and began an affair with a married man six months ago. She was an attractive, talented lawyer but felt unhappy for a variety of reasons. She felt enormous frustration about how she had managed to get herself into this situation when on many levels she had everything going for her.”
There are a variety of reasons why people might seek affairs with married men or women. In the majority of cases these affairs are related to a person’s past experiences and are a means of acting out repressed emotions. These include a need for revenge, apathy, lust or low self worth. Whatever the motives for embarking on an affair with a married person, the solution lies in discovering the cause of these strong desires which are often beyond the understanding of most people caught up in these situations. This is where relationship coaching can be a useful tool.
Why Do Some People Seek Affairs?
Deep rooted psychological issues from childhood are often quoted as potential reasons to seek affairs with married men or women e.g growing up with an absent father, or the desire to keep a relationship passionate, makes the non committal nature of an affair with a married person more appealing. What is evident, however, is that most people end up feeling unfulfilled by these types of relationships, but cannot work out why they seem to go for same types of relationship each time.
Desire to Change Relationship Patterns
Effective counselling is useful in helping those who want to understand the reasons behind their behaviour. This is not about apportioning blame, which is often the worse thing to do, as there can be a multitude of factors that have led you down this path. It could be that there are aspects of your current life that are unfulfilling and causing you concern. Whatever the reasons, discussing your issues with a qualified therapist is the first positive step towards a resolution and can bring about a new self awareness that can change your life forever.
If you’d like to discuss this further or learn more about how Alix Needham hypnotherapy can help you, please do get in touch.
I can offer sessions in-house at my central London clinic or new via online hypnotherapy sessions.